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In:Imperative Turns at Talk: The design of directives in action
Edited by Marja-Leena Sorjonen, Liisa Raevaara and Elizabeth Couper-Kuhlen
[Studies in Language and Social Interaction 30] 2017
► pp. 271–295

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Chapter 9
Negotiating deontic rights in second position

Young adult daughters’ imperatively formatted responses to mothers’ offers in Estonian

 | Linköping University
Published online: 18 August 2017
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https://doi.org/10.1075/slsi.30.09kee
Abstract
This study looks at offer sequences in Estonian with an analytical focus on answers in the imperative form. “Telling someone to do something” has traditionally been considered an initiating action, typically an order. In this study, however, Estonian speakers are shown to produce “orders” in second position, i.e., in response to an initiating action. These imperative responses are grammatically fitted to first actions in at least two ways. First, they reuse the verbs in the first actions, thus constituting one type of verb repeat response that is common in Estonian conversation. Second, they are grammatically restricted to positions after turns formatted in 1st person, termed my-side offers in this study. With the adjacency pair my-side offer – imperative response participants are shown to navigate the landscape of interpersonal deonticity. It is a crucial feature of my-side offers that the speaker defines the future from her own perspective, formulating what she herself will do, albeit with clear consequences and obligations for the recipient. The originator of the offer thus claims deontic rights over the future course of activities that concern both parties, and displays a strong expectation of acceptance by the other. Imperative responses, however, challenge these rights. Instead of merely accepting the offer, they redefine the current speaker as the deontic authority. The analysis is based on phone calls between mothers and young adult daughters – a relationship where entitlement to services, as well as respective deontic rights, can be an issue. It is overwhelmingly mothers who produce offers in these calls, and daughters who answer them in the imperative form. The paper argues that the daughters thereby reclaim agency and rights to independently decide upon their future in the ongoing process of becoming a responsible adult.
Article outline
  • 1.Introduction
  • 2.Imperative as a morphological form in Estonian conversation
  • 3.The data
  • 4. My-side offers : The sequential environment for imperatively formatted responses
  • 5.Imperative response: Cutting the umbilical cord
    • 5.1Interrogative my-side offer sequences
    • 5.2Declarative my-side offer sequence
  • 6.Discussion and conclusion
  • Author queries
  • Acknowledgements
  • Notes
  • Special transcription conventions
  • References
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