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In:Emotion in Language: Theory – research – application
Edited by Ulrike M. Lüdtke
[Consciousness & Emotion Book Series 10] 2015
► pp. 325–340

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Silences as a linguistic strategy Remarks on the role of the unsaid in romantic relationships on the internet

Published online: 16 December 2015
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https://doi.org/10.1075/ceb.10.17mar
The article analyses data from a corpus of email-correspondence and chat protocols that describe the initial steps of romantic contacts. It shows that different types of silences are used strategically in the process of people getting to know each other. Five silence strategies within conversations are described and their functions are illustrated by typical examples.
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